Whether you have been on the singles scene for quite some time and feel that you are in need of a refresher on effective dating strategies, or you are a complete newcomer when it comes to dating, you’ve come to the right place.
I have been studying master pick-up artist Vin DiCarlo for a couple of years now, and it has gotten to the point were I feel like I myself am actually something of a dating expert these days!
So, in today’s post I wanted to share a few of the most important things that I’ve learned over the past few years educating myself on this stuff:
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Dating Tip #1 – Build Unbreakable Confidence (I know, I know… You’ve Heard This One Beforeš¤¦)
My first tip that I would give to any man who wants to improve the success that he is achieving with the ladies is this… Before anything else, anything else at all – the most important thing that you have to keep in mind is to always remain confident. Trust me, there is nothing, and I mean NOTHING that women love more than a confident man.
In fact, it is like they can smell this trait from miles away and therefore it needs to be something that you dispel naturally. Of course, becoming the sort of man who is able to put forth a confident aura at all time is something that will take just a wee bit of effort. But seriously, work on this one thing and you will be paid back in spades. The big trick and the thing that is hard to get right is that you want to come across as super confident without having too much of it lest you appear arrogant.
How exactly can you communicate to a woman that you are confident? Well, know who you are and do not be afraid to show her who that person is without talking too much about yourself. Take pride in your job, your family, your interests, and who you are, without ever bragging. Hold your head up high and be respectful of others. This will surely give any woman assurance that she is in front of a man who knows how to hold his own.
Additionally, take control of the date. Show her your confidence by planning out your first date from start to finish. This will undoubtedly impress her.
Dating Tip #2 – If You Are Over 25 Only Date Women You Would Marry
If you are a young guy in college then marriage is likely the furthest thing from your mind right now, and that’s okay. However, if you are over the age of 25 or so, you really had ought to start thinking about your future and what kind of life you want for yourself 5 or ten years down the road.
Like Ferris Bueller said – “life moves pretty fast if you don’t stop and look around once in a while you could miss it”.
This is not to say that you should get married before you are ready, not at all. Rather my tip is that you should really look at who you are dating and think deeply about whether or not they are truly a suitable partner. Many people SETTLE when it comes to relationships, and end up in relationships with people they are crazy about just because they don’t want to be alone… That’s know way to spend your life!
So if you are dating somebody you don’t see a future with, just let them go. It’s the kind thing to do. That way they can find someone who truly appreciates them for who they are and really wants to grow with them. And even more importantly it sets you free to be with somebody who you really want to go the distance with.
Dating Tip #3 – Use The Power Of Pre-Selection to Attract A Great Girlfriend
One thing a lot of guys asked me about is how they can get an amazing girlfriend. Men see me out with my girl looking like the happiest couple in the world and they sheepishly inquire, “how did you get a girl like that?” So, in this last tip I wanted to bless you with some wisdom on the best and easiest way to get some a really terrific girlfriend for yourself!
One of the things that a lot of men seem to misunderstand about women is the fact that they are always in competition with each other. This being the case, it is very important that you present yourself as the kind of guy who a woman can “use” to get her friends super jealous and envious. It seems a bit tricky, but this kind of thing is actually very powerful and based on female psychology so don’t be so quick to dismiss this methodology. Now I know what you’re thinking “Yeah, but I’m just a regular guy why would the fact that a girl is dating me make her friends jealous?” (This of course relates back to Tip #1!)
That is the problem right there! Most guys don’t think highly enough of themselves at all, and they act in a way that shows women that they have this kind of average or slightly below average self-esteem. Instead, what guys need to do is feel like they are the coolest guy in the world and then present themselves as such. What most men don’t realize is that they don’t need to really be all that exceptional and anyway, or have any “proof” that they are the cats meow in order to present themselves as such. In other words, it’s not really so much about who you are as it is about who you SAY you are if that makes any sense.
Dating Tip #4 – Be A Lifetime Learner
You should make learning more about women, how they think, what they like, how to make them love you deeply etc… a lifetime project. In this day and age there are numerous books and other training courses on this topic that a guy can pick up for just a couple of bucks and thereby get a huge upper hand when it comes to relationship dynamics. Sure, if you want to be lazy you can skip this step and tried to just be a charming guy and see how you do, but most guys to find real success with women are guys to never stop learning about women and wanting to get better and better over time. Really it’s just like anything else, it’s all about constantly improving your skill set and being a lifetime learner.
Of course we are just scratching the surface of everything that there is to learn about women and dating in this short article. So be sure to keep learning!